Here at The Love Architects, Kary, Janie and I deal with making sure our clients realize the importance of ‘knowing’ and honoring their true selves, being their authentic self on dates, and most importantly, being OPEN, patient, and ‘truly’ giving each opportunity in front of them a chance, while on their path to love. We know and agree that one must be ‘attracted’ to their partner, and that physical attraction is important – but don’t be fooled into seeing it as the primary focus. Too many do. Know this, no matter how ‘hot’ your partner might be, it eventually wears off, as the ‘true’ beauty and attraction for the soul to connect comes from within – The reality is, lust cannot sustain itself. Sometimes people move from one new relationship to the next because that certain “something” seems to be missing or something isn’t “perfect”. If it’s about the physical (age, a certain feature, etc.), and yet the rest is ‘amazing’, you’re coming from the lie of FALSE EGO, which is NOT your friend and will keep you single forever. Also, keep in mind, it takes time to bond in true human relationships. Our bodies are bombarded with a cocktail of pleasurable chemicals in the initial stages of a relationship; and then, as time goes on, we experience the AMAZING and most important effect of bonding chemicals.People end up missing out on real opportunities and possibilities for happy, healthy, amazing love every day, and most remain stuck and single due to this, when instead they could get out of ego and be madly in love with their actual soul mate. “Moving on” is also a “safe” place to be when someone has been hurt in the past and is afraid to be close or look at their own reality of what keeps them from love. We have more than one client, and know way too many singles/people, who get in their own way and miss getting to the bonding stage. Over-analysis, hyper-criticism, and the focus on physical perfection are just some of the unfortunate and unnecessary stumbling blocks we encounter on a daily basis. Chemistry cannot be the foundation for a healthy relationship. But take the chemistry piece and factor in friendship, laughter, kindness, values, honesty, and showing up as one’s true self, then you’ve really got something ‘HOT’ on which to build a phenomenal relationship, and yes, even amazing sexual chemistry! AGAIN, here at The Love Architects, Kary, Janie and I are dealing with making sure our clients realize the importance of being ‘real’, patient, and most importantly, being open and really giving people a chance on their path to love. When they do, LOVE HAPPENS!
CHEMISTRY, SHMEMISTRY! We want our clients to have IT ALL!
Road Blocks to Love
Greetings friends and followers! Today we want to talk about road blocks to love… Just this week, an elite client at the firm threw down some heavy ones – and we’re working hard as experts to help her clear her path to love. In many cases being strong, independent, educated, smart and in control serves people in their careers and other facets of their lives. We have countless doctors, lawyers, executives and entrepreneurs who come to us seeking love… They may be charming, beautiful, wealthy and seem to have the world by the tail – except for a meaningful healthy love relationship. What sometimes unfolds in our love architecture process, is that the client has deep, unhealed heart wounds from childhood and/or past relationships and he or she is ultimately blocking love, without even being aware of it. This can happen in many ways. As a rule, the body does not like change and when we begin to move in a healthier direction – whether it is mind, body or soul, there is resistance, fear and push-back. From there, we as relationship experts may encounter self-sabotage, projecting, and power plays to control others and invite people into dysfunctional communication transactions – including criticism, rudeness, threats and temper tantrums! It can get VERY interesting around here.
However, there is hope! People can and do heal IF they are willing to look at what’s keeping them stuck and take responsibility for healing it themselves (with help!). We see it all the time. The reality is that NONE of us got exactly what we needed, when we needed it as children and young adults. We all have gaps in our emotional development and coping mechanisms that helped us function and served us in life. For example, children who experience chaos, trauma and/or unpredictability may use care-taking and controlling behaviors to protect or feel safe in relationships, yet these behaviors eventually undermine healthy, long-term adult relationships. When our gaps remain unhealed, we are drawn to relationships that feel “comfortable” albeit unhealthy – and we stay stuck. It is our hope that our client moves past the blocks she has engineered. Time will tell – but the choice is ultimately hers.
So you can see that we are not mere matchmakers or dating coaches – although there are components of each we drawn upon. We, as Love Architects, are engineers of healthy relationships – and sometimes there is significant remodeling or perhaps even a tear down that needs to happen to build a rich, rewarding healthy love life. Do do our work, we’ve got to get in there with a flashlight and peek under the floorboards to find and repair what needs attention. It can be messy – but it’s a labor of love and beautiful, meaningful work!
Cheers to love,
Kailen and Kary
Martina on “Lovetown, USA”: one ‘Love Makeover’ coming right up!
Hi! It’s me, Kary Kruger, Kailen Rosenberg’s Senior Love Architect at The Love Architects with a question for you: What or who stood out to you on last night’s debut of “Lovetown, USA”?
For me, it was Martina, the bikini-clad lawn-mowing, serial dating -bombshell in her mid 40′s! Beneath the fun-loving, gregarious character with a big smile and quick laugh, I saw a woman with a beautiful heart who is hurting deeply inside – and clearly medicating by drawing the attention of men, yet never allowing them (or herself) to get too close. Martina seems to get a love or romance “fix” when she gets phone numbers and other validation from men, but then she doesn’t show up for dates or quickly moves on to the next conquest.
Do you know anyone like this? Martina has clearly not been “matched with herself” – YET! But there is so much hope and love to be found and had in the next 30 days. I know that if anyone can help Martina break through and help her find healing and the capacity to love authentically, IF Martina is ready, it will be Kailen through her “Love Whispering” ways and Love Architecture process.
To find love, you have to first be love – it starts with taking care of yourself and healing heart wounds (that you may not even be aware of!) that keep you from experiencing true connection and emotional intimacy with others. This is “the good stuff” that bonds us and allows us to create happy, healthy, long-term relationships; which is our speciality!
Martina is prime for a “Love Makeover” – it will take some real work on Martina’s part, but I can’t wait to see her grow and change!
Cheers to Love, Kary
The Good, The Bad, and the Ugly! Here we go…
If you keep asking for what hasn’t worked in the past, how can we help you find love? The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result – NOTHING stands more true, when it comes to love.
Each week we promise you a little bit of the good, the bad and the ugly.
THE GOOD: Our amazing clients! Those who have great attitudes, the willingness to acknowledge that even they, along with everyone in this world,’ has ‘baggage’. Furthermore, they are willing to take a look at their stories, have accountability, and heal. These are the gems who end up happily matched due to their faith and trust in the search for love.
THE BAD: Those who (bless their hearts) believe they have no baggage, have a need to control’ and unknowingly posture and manipulate to get their way when it comes to love Sadly, they allow their egos to sabotage a love that might be right under their nose or waiting right around the corner.
THE UGLY: Staying stuck in a cycle of denial, love or romance addiction, believing that someone other than themselves can fix it for them without doing some personal work.
Here at Love and Life Architects we are incredibly passionate about our clients and our desire for them to find happy, healthy relationships. However, just because people hire us or pay us money, it does not mean we can magically snap our fingers and find them exactly what they think they need. We are here to connect souls – not egos, and help create loving, long-lasting relationships. And we do. As the old saying goes, you can lead a horse to water but you cannot make him drink.
Until we blog again, cheers to love!
Kailen, Kary and Janie “The Love Architects”
Hello to all of you out there trying to figure out why love seems to elude so many!
Since our last post I have been busy filming a social experiment on love, starting a radio hour on love and relationships, and traveling the country meeting singles – from the likes of your neighbor next door to celebrities in Bel Air, and I have continued to meet and coach those who know that something needs to change within them, no matter how perfect on paper their life might seem. Bottom line, there is a reason that every one is single. Many of you don’t have a clue that you have ‘walls’ up and are blocking and sabotaging love! I see it every day, in many different forms, ways, shapes and sizes. My goal is to help you see those walls, your areas of unseen sabotage, and what it is within you that keeps you in a pattern that blocks you from love. Starting today, my Love Architects and I will be sharing stories about what we are seeing and experiencing within and outside of our firm’s walls that keeps singles, single. This blog will be fun, funny, sometimes sad, a good teaching tool, and definitely entertaining! Let’s find a way to get everyone ‘real’, steer away from the junk that keeps people stuck, and help everyone fall in amazing love!
With love, Kailen Rosenberg
See what the New York Post recently had to say about top matchmaker Kailen Rosenberg!
Source: New York Post
Small Georgia town named ‘Lovetown USA’ for Oprah show
It’s a dangerous idea: “The Bachelor” meets “Mayberry R.F.D.”
After a long — and well-publicized, outside New York, at least — search, Oprah Winfrey’s network has chosen the cozy, Gulf Coast town of Kingsland, Ga. as “Lovetown, USA.”
The idea behind the show is to have noted matchmakers Kailen Rosenberg and Paul Carrick Brunson visit the town for a month, pairing up as many eligible singles as possible. The show is being billed as a “social experiment.”
Before now, the small coastal town of roughly 10,000 residents — which straddles the Georgia/Florida border — was known (if at all) as the place where John F. Kennedy Jr. and Caroline Bessette secured their marriage license in 1996. (They wed on nearby Cumberland Island.) Now, “everybody here wants to be on TV, and they’re all getting their chance with the cameras around,” says Tonya Rosado, the executive director of the town’s tourism department.
Small towns all over the South and Midwest have been reporting for months that representatives of the show were scouting them.
It seems Kingsland was finally chosen as “Lovetown, USA” when about 500 residents turned out for a “Love Town Hall Meeting” at the town’s North Center Building in a bid to persuade producers Kingsland was enthusiastic.
By comparison, only around 50 people turned up at an event staged by runner-up town Carrboro, NC, according to Rosado.) Camera crews sneaked into Kingsland last week with Oprah in tow (she arrived via Coast Guard cutter), greeting townspeople on the pier and dining with the mayor.
“They’re really focusing on meeting and casting six singles who Paul and Kailen will help find love,” says Rosado. “But when Oprah came here and spoke to us, she said what [the show] is really about is what happens to a community when the focus is on love — and great, fantastic things can happen . . . that love is organic, it’s about forgiveness, grace, paying it forward, that kind of love.
“So the entire community is focused on love, on doing service for others,” she says. “And there are some amazing things happening, including our community garden, which will produce organic foods for our local food banks.
“One of the other things we’re doing is we have these small fruit trees called ‘love trees,’ ” she says. “We have two of them right now. People are coming out and sharing stories of love — not just romantic love, but things they’ve done for other people — and we’re putting little tags on the trees, and when one tree gets filled up we’ll start on another tree.
“Our goal is to have 100 ‘love trees’ we can plant for the entire community.”
The OWN crew shooting “Lovetown, USA” will be in Kingsland, nearby St. Marys and Woodbine through next month, when Winfrey is expected to return to Kingsland at the end of the shoot.
Rosenberg and Brunson not only provide free “mediating” services — “especially when it comes to forgiveness,” Rosado says, but they’ve called into the local radio station (K-Bay 106) to update listeners on their “Lovetown, USA” progress. Winfrey has also called into the station a few times.
“It’s been a whirlwind,” Rosado says. “And I have to say this community has really embraced [the show]. ”
“Lovetown, USA” is expected to premiere this summer.
Oprah Winfrey, Kailen Rosenberg and Paul Carrick Brunson Launch Biggest Dating Challenge in TV History
After a nationwide search, OWN and BBC Worldwide Productions have selected Kingsland, Georgia to be transformed into “Lovetown, USA.” Two expert matchmakers including the real-life “Hitch,” Paul Carrick Brunson, and Kailen Rosenberg, with over 200 successful marriages to her name and hailed as a true “Love WhispererTM,” will take over Kingsland for 30 days helping eight singles embark on a journey to find true love in their own backyard. From the local mayor to restaurateurs, bosses and evenmarried couples, everyone in the town will be involved. This one-of-a-kind social experiment is the biggest dating challenge in TV history; examining the effects love can have on the DNA of one American community. The show is produced by BBC Worldwide Productions for OWN. Bruce Toms is executive producer. Izzie Pick Ashcroft, Rob Bagshaw and Jane Tranter are executive producers for BBC Worldwide Productions. Charlie Debevoise and Mark Hickman are executive producers for NorthSouth Productions.
Kailen Rosenberg selected as top matchmaker to bring love to the singles of Kingsland, GA on new OWN and BBC Worldwide television series,
Love and Life Architects is thrilled and blessed by the news that president and founder Kailen Rosenberg will be starring in the new television series, “Lovetown, USA” on Oprah Winfrey’s network, OWN and BBC Worldwide. Already one of the country’s most respected relationship experts, Kailen Rosenberg will bring her passion and unique skills to the town of Kingsland, GA in one of televisions most ambitious matchmaking projects ever. Along with D.C. area matchmaker, Paul Carrick Brunson, the show will focus on eight singles from Kingsland who will be coached and matched up with their potential soul mates. Healthy relationships, teaching people how to honor themselves and opening their hearts to love will be the shows emphasis with lots of fun twists in the mix for the town and the matchmakers. “Millionaire Matchmaker” this show is not, instead it will highlight singles from all walks of life who are at a place in their lives to make a commitment to a long term and committed relationship. Kailen is busily preparing for this new adventure and is excited about spreading her message of love not only on a national forum, but international as well. Filming for “Love Town, USA” begins in early February with the show scheduled to debut this summer. For more information, please contact Love and Life Architects at 952.544.5683and follow #kailenrosenberg on twitter, and #
Twin Cities’ KFAN Radio Personality partners with KLLA in his Search for Love!
You Could Help KFAN Radio Personality “Meatsauce” Find His Soulmate!
With the assistance of Kailen Rosenberg and Love and Life Architects, Meatsauce is searching for love and we’re taking nominations. Do you have a friend, coworker or sister that would be a perfect match for Meatsauce? How about yourself? Submit your nominee including a picture and a short paragraph explaining why you would be perfect for Meatsauce by clicking the link below.
Follow Meatsauce’s search for love! Listen to KFAN FM 100.3 at 7:10 on the following dates:
* November 29 – Kailen Rosenberg meets Meatsauce, nominations are collected.
* December 6 – Meatsauce does initial assessment and receives Kailen’s relationship suggestions.
* December 13 – Top 3 candidates will be interviewed on the Power Trip Morning Show. Power Trip will determine which candidate will go on date with Meatsauce.
* December 20 – After going on date, Meatsauce will recap the experience and discuss the potential future of the relationship.
Trouble in Hollywood: Keeping your Relationships Healthy
We’ve seen it a million times; celebrity power couples calling it quits and, unless one has been living under a rock for the last few months, it appears that these Hollywood matches have been failing more frequently than ever before. A wait in line at the local supermarket or a brief, channel surf is enough to overwhelm even the most celebrity-obsessed viewer with endless news of ‘love’ gone sour. As if you haven’t already heard, a few big breakups of 2011 include Ashlee Simpson and Pete Wentz, Maria Shriver and Arnold Schwarzenegger, Eva Longoria and Tony Parker, and most recently, Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony. For most of us, it only strengthens the belief that the majority of these relationships were built on a faulty foundation, on the other hand, we all have that one celebrity couple that we hope to see live happily ever after. Famous couples or not, the ‘D-word’ has become increasingly prevalent in America. In fact, millions of couples, worldwide, are affected every year. According to DivorceStatistics.org, the divorce rate in America, for first marriage, is between 45% to 50%. As discouraging as this number may be, KLLA has faith in the institution of marriage and the lasting fulfillment that a successful union brings to happy couples around the globe.
The media has always done a notable job of dissecting the lives of public figures and plastering their findings for all to see. If we’re not careful, we are simply consumed by it, commanding wasted time and energy that could be channeled to other areas of our lives. Married or not, any sort of relationship requires maintenance and work from time to time. Consider your car: a regular tune-up is a necessary, preventative measure that will deter you from being stranded on the side of the road. In retrospect, we commonly see the term, “irreconcilable differences” associated with divorces; without nourishment, your relationship may leave you feeling stranded, broken down, or just plain unhealthy. Practicing a delicate balance of communication, respect and honesty is a good place to start in your own relationships. At KLLA, we believe that healthy bonds with others are only possible if one has a healthy relationship with his or her self, first. Once this has been achieved, it is vital to recognize the strengths and weaknesses in your unions and, if necessary, ask yourself what you can do to improve the quality of each of them. Although it can be a mentally exhausting task, reflecting on these attributes might lead to some fascinating, personal discoveries and quick fixes that could truly improve the quality of both your life and the lives of those around you. Next time you are exposed to another celebrity separation, or hear gossip that Sally’s husband has been deceitful, know that there IS hope for a committed, monogamous relationship, and love really does conquer all.